Wednesday, March 2, 2011

A question in my mind

Is it ok to be in loved with your students or maybe I can make it more romantic if the student and teacher is in love together? Is there any law in the teacher’s rules say that teacher and students should not fall in love or to be in love? For me there are no problems as long as the teacher does not mix his personal things with his career. But usually as a human being it is impossible to make it separate between your personal life and your profession. Are there any reality cases that involve teacher and students? But in these days I think there are a lot of these cases but still remain silent and unknown to the society. It is maybe rarely happen in the school between teachers and students but I think there are a lot of these situations happen in universities or college. I think there are several cases happen very close to me. My friends, seniors, cousin someone who is just around me some ended with a happy ending and some ended with a sad ending. But the question now, it is ethical to be in love with your own students or teachers? I think I need to revise the rules and regulation or the ethical guideline for the teachers if there is any. I don’t even know if it there. Maybe can ask my mother if she has one. People might think why do I need to raise this question, it is just that I had been watching some movies or reading some stories that show the love between teachers and students lately, so this kind of question come out from my mind.

But for me as a future teacher to be with Allah’s permission, I think I should really avoid this. It may ruin the reputation and the relationship with the students. Teacher can be bias towards the students. Even if she or he says that he can be a very professional one but we just as a human being cannot escape from being indulge with the emotional matters. The fact that if the female teacher fall in love with her students, is not very suitable because obviously the student is younger that the teacher. They are not mature enough to deal with the matter of feeling although this is the stage where they will start to find someone from the opposite sex as their so call friend. And for me I think that as a teacher we should not encourage them to have that kind of relationship so early, because they have like thousands of other things to do. They can also find more people when they go to universities and working area. The most important think Islam prohibit coupling. Obviously if teacher fall in love with the students they cannot get married as soon as possible because the students might have a long journey of life before thinking about marriage. Whatever decision or opinion you might have, it’s all depending on you. Everyone have their own stand but for me I will try to restraint myself from being like that, because my work is to educate my students and them useful to the country and religion.