Coupling and the cons

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Lately, I realize that coupling has being a trend among the teenagers; it’s even started from the primary school. I don’t know if they realize what is actually coupling and the reason for coupling. Coupling comes from the word couple which is in this matter refers two peoples or things, two people who are seen together, especially if they are married or in a romantic or sexual relationship, while coupling from Oxford dictionary advanced leaner, is an action of joining or combining two things or an act of having sex (illicit coupling). 

Let’s not talk about coupling in term of religion and culture views, because in Islam coupling is prohibited because it may lead to certain bad things. But now in the Malay culture, coupling has been accepted by many people even though most of Malays are Muslim. I just want to talk about coupling and its cons in general. 

In my views, from my observation and experiences coupling leads to many of disadvantages, let us look at it one by one: 

1.  It’s a waste of time. It’s not that coupling may gives you a lot of happiness but sometimes it waste your time. It usually happen when you are madly in love, you are totally into that person and you will never realize of how long you had talk with the person on phone, sometimes you even forgot to do your homework, or any other duty. There also some people who willing to postpone their study group and make use of time for dating. It is not guilty to date as long as you observe some rules or border but to abandon all of your duty because of this is such a waste of time. Then finally when you broke up with him/her you will cry, keep thinking of him/her until you forget everything, it is also some sort of time wasting.
2. It is also a waste of money. Believe it or not, when you are dating with someone, you want to always call him/her, SMS him/her, it demand a lot of money for you prepaid. When it comes to your partner’s birthday, you need to prepare the present or maybe some surprise or held a part to her/him. For those who are not too demanding you can just be romantic by giving some cookies or cake made by yourself or handmade card but for those who always want something expensive or grad, what should you too, whether you like it or not you need to prepare it for the love one. So, this is the time where you will need to spend big amount of money just to make sure your lover will be happy. For the teenagers who do not have any money, and still depending on their parent, don’t you think it is worth it to spend it for your girlfriend or boyfriend? I don’t think so. 
3. The third reason was something that I had observed from my friends experiences. She has a boyfriend who really likes to be like her body guard. Wherever she wants to go, or with whom she wants to hang out, she needs to inform it to him. This is such an annoying thing to me. He is not even your husband. The freedom is no longer yours. I hate the fact that he can be more annoying than the parent. If it is the parents who are worrying about the children, I can really understand it but even the parents do not forbid the girls to hang out with her friends.

Once more, I would like to stress that, I’m talking about my general views not talking based on any religion or culture about the coupling. So, whether you want to have a date or not, it is all your choice, cause it’s your life.